Regardless where -- or to whom -- a child is born, I imagine most parents feel a sense of royal nobility accompanying the birth of their new child. Is this just narcissism on the part of parents, or is there something more -- something exquisitely ethereal, yet undeniably authentic that legitimizes the blessed and regal feelings surrounding the entrance of a new, embodied spirit into the race of human beings?
I believe there is something more, and not just because I -- like any twitterpated new parent -- think my daughter is the coolest thing to grace the planet since sliced bread (or my son for that matter).
Nevertheless, I am similarly convinced such feelings can quickly turn narcissistic and prideful if I am not vigilant and wise. Today's post is about what being "special" does and does not mean in terms of Self-Action Leadership.
The Self-Action Leadership Theory holds that ALL human beings possess equal worth.
SAL theory also holds that ALL of us possess the potential to become fully actualized human beings capable of rising to the highest levels of personal growth. In other words, we all have the potential to become kings and queens in an existential sense as related to our own personal potential.
Unfortunately, Existential Equality and Potential do not always translate into equal Existential Growth. This is not because individuals can't progress, but because they don't learn how, or worse, because they choose not to apply whatever true principles they do learn -- for it is upon true principles that all authentic growth is predicated.
As my mother used to say: "Pretty is as pretty does." In other words, while all human beings are born into existential royalty, not everybody learns about and chooses to live up to their noble birthright.
History is strewn with "royals" who did not compose themselves very regally throughout their lives. The past is likewise filled with inspiring stories of so-called "nobodies" who learned about their potential for existential greatness and then became something truly magnificent despite their humble beginnings. Thus, while we all enter the world with an existential aura of royal potential, authentic kings and queens, princes and princesses are not born, they are made. The opposite is also true: narcissists are also made, not born -- a reminder that should keep all of us on our toes to avoid its insidiously selfish clutches. 
|Lina with one of my proposal props; March 22, 2008.|
It's not merely parental braggadocio or narcissistic hyperbole for me to look upon my sweet, new, little daughter Kara as a princess, nor is it merely gushing spousal affection to view my wife as a queen. A princess and queen is what my sweet Kara and Lina actually are. And so is your daughter, wife, mother, sister, friend, etc.
The errors come not in thinking that Kara and Lina are royalty. The errors come in viewing them as being intrinsically better than anyone else, or in failing to treat Lina like the queen that she is, or in failing to teach, coach, and mentor Kara in true principles of Existential Growth so she might realize her own limitless potential.
We should all recognize the royalty that we actually are--at least in embryonic form. The world would have you believe that only a few can truly reside royally "at the top." This is an outgrowth of the "Scarcity Mentality." The SAL theory rejects the Scarcity Mentality in favor of the Abundance Mentality, which recognizes there is plenty of prosperity and Existential Growth to go around for everyone who is willing to work hard, play by the rules, and live a life of integrity to true principles. 
1. Acts 10:34 (New Testament).
2. Navarrette, R. (2015). Narcissists Aren't Born; They're Made. March 13, 2015. CNN.com. URL: http://www.cnn.com/2015/03/12/opinions/navarrette-narcissism-problem/
3. Covey, S.R. (1989). The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change. New York, NY: Fireside.
** Important Announcement from Freedom Focused **
Beginning later this week and continuing through the month of April, Freedom Focused will be publishing video clips of Dr. Jordan Jensen's groundbreaking speech on education and live seminar on Self-Action Leadership delivered at Lone Star College in The Woodlands, TX on February 21, 2015.