Wednesday, April 27, 2022

CONSTITUTION Article II: Corporate Rules

There are RULES for LIFE...  

And there are RULES for WORK.  

At Freedom Focused, all leaders, managers, trainers, and builders (including myself) are expected to live by certain rules, standards, and codes of conduct. Persons desiring a position of employment at Freedom Focused must commit to live by these RULES in conjunction with passing all required interviews and tests.

This article also serves as a segue from our discussion of life rules into a presentation of the Freedom Focused Declaration of Independence and Constitution, two documents that are both seminal and preeminent in guiding the cognitive, behavioral, philosophical, and cultural workings of the organization. Like the United States of America, Freedom Focused derives its power from its Agents (The People) as they adhere and otherwise uphold the principles, practices, and tenets contained in the Freedom Focused Corporate Constitution

The Freedom Focused Corporate Constitution, or FFCC, has thirteen articles. These articles clearly and explicitly articulate key elements of the organization such as:
  1. Vision and Mission
  2. Corporate Rules
  3. Oaths of Office
  4. Organizational Pillars
  5. Pledges of Allegiance and Corporate Anthem
  6. Values and Standards
  7. Core Paradigms
  8. Code of Conduct
  9. Statues of Authority, Chains of Command, and Organizational Structure
  10. Corporate By-Laws and Operating Procedures
  11. Long-term Goals
  12. Projected Growth Trajectories and Intended Revenue Streams
  13. Dr. JJ's 13 Rules for Living

Article II contains EIGHT (8) corporate rules that Freedom Focused Agents (leaders, managers, trainers, and builders) are expected to follow. These rules are as follows:

Freedom Focused

Corporate Rules


Rule 1:  I am always Responsible.

It may not always be my fault, but if it is my problem, it is my responsibility to take ownership of the situation and create solutions.  

Rule 2:  Integrity is Everything.

I am continually honest withand true toothers. Just as importantly, I am continually honest with (and true to) myself.

Rule 3:  I Want to Be Here.

I work at Freedom Focused because it is where I want to work.  If I ever lose that desire, I am at complete liberty to work elsewhere. 

Rule 4 I Animate and Personify Self-Action Leadership.

Both inside and outside of the organization, I animate the essence of the SAL Theory, Model, and Philosophy in my appearance, attitude, conduct, and relations.  The SAL Textbook is my secular guide to living and working.  Freedom Focused is a synergistic sum of its parts, and I am a vital part of that sum.   

Rule 5:  Elite Followership precedes elite Leadership.

As a FF Agent, I have a deep respect for authority and continually seek to promote, support, honor, and learn from my supervisors at every level of the organization.

Rule 6:  Elite Leadership is Servant Leadership.

FF is a T.E.A.M. of teams.  As a FF Supervisor, I appreciate and recognize the vital contributions and worth of my subordinates.  I promote open dialogue in an effort to seek the input and feedback of subordinates in making wise decisions that benefit everyone involved.

Rule 7:  The Gold Standard is my Standard.

At every level and in every endeavor, my standard is EXCELLENCE and my planning, preparation, patience, and performance is ELITE. In setting expectations, I never overpromise and underdeliver; I always underpromise and overdeliver.

Rule 8:  I am Proud to Be a FF Agent, and I live to Build, Serve, and Teach.

As a FF Agent, my primary motivator is not money or personal aggrandizement.  I value being part of an organization that cares about me and the world-at-large. I take positive pride in my affiliation with FF. As an active expression of my gratitude for the opportunity to be part of this unique company, I live and work to make a positive difference in the lives of those I serve both inside and outside of the organization.  My family, community, nation, and world are better places because I live and work at Freedom Focused.

Jordan R. Jensen, Ed.D.
Founder and CEO of Freedom Focused
Freedom Focused is a Personal Leadership & Character Development Training Organization.

Founded by Dr. Jordan R. Jensen and Incorporated in 2005, it is currently headquartered in Palm Beach County, Florida.

NOTE: This article is the 21st in a series of 22 articles on the subject of LIFE RULES.

Click HERE to access quick links to the other 21 articles.   


Dr. JJ

April 27, 2022
Palm Beach Gardens, Florida, USA

Author's Note: This is the 262nd Blog Post Published by Freedom Focused LLC since November 2013. 

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Wednesday, April 20, 2022

RULES for LIFE by America's Founding Fathers and Mothers

Statue of Thomas Jefferson in the
Jefferson Memorial, Washington D.C.
For several months now, we have been discussing the topic of "RULES for LIFE." I began this series of posts by sharing Ten Rules for Living by Thomas Jefferson: one of America's most famous and venerated Founding Leaders.

Click HERE to review Thomas Jefferson's 10 Rules

I followed that post up by sharing examples of "Life Rules" from others, including myself. More recently, my friend and colleague—Dr. Chris Neck—and I have expanded this theme to the topic of PARENTING.

Click HERE to review Dr. CN's post on parenting teenagers

This week's post continues this theme of "Life Rules" by sharing a collection of thought-provoking and inspiring quotes from famous American leaders from the past and present—but mostly from the past. 

Mount Rushmore, South Dakota
Left to right: Washington, Jefferson, T. Roosevelt, Lincoln
Freedom Focused cherishes the memory of the Founding Fathers and Mothers of the United States of America. These men and women were imperfect individuals whose legacies have been marred in the minds of some by the sins and stains of past eras in which they lived.

Nevertheless, these imperfections and unpalatable past realities do not change the noble and august words, deeds, and examples put forth by these extraordinary men and women—people that Freedom Focused will ever hold up as worthy of our respect, admiration, study, and emulation.

Sadly, we live in a poisonous era of presentism when persons in both the past and present are often judged not by their greatest accomplishments and noblest aims, but by their worst impulses and most regrettable missteps. This pattern of thinking, speaking, and judging is a sure-fire recipe for negativity, disunity, incivility, discord, hatred, and even violence.

Winston Churchill, who understood better than most the value of heritage and tradition, once wisely cautioned against the pitfalls of presentism. Said he: If the present tries to sit in judgment of the past, it will lose the future (1). 

"If the present tries to sit in judgment of the past, it will lose the future." 

Sir Winston Churchill

In an effort to counter this quarrelsome culture of endless enmity and character crucifixions, Freedom Focused encourages men and women everywhere to practice patterning our judgements of others after a manner once suggested by a great religious teacher, even Jesus of Nazareth, who, when he was queried whether an adulteress should be put to death for her sins, replied simply—yet oh, so cogently"Let he who is without sin cast the first stone."

This is not to say we should turn a blind eye to immorality, criminality, or evil (past or present); it is merely an appeal to adjust the focus of our minds and hearts more fully on the best (and future possibility) that lies within a person (or nation), rather than incessantly replaying an individual's (or country's) past foibles and sins. While self-action leaders always learn from the past, they are never fixated on looking backward. Instead, they are focused ever forward in a continual effort to effectively and productively think, speak, and act in the present in order to create an even better future.  

Since I was just a little boy, I have carefully studied and been inspired and mentored by the examples and anecdotes gifted to us by the legacies of the remarkably talented, generous, and principle-centered leaders that built, maintained, saved, and perpetuated our imperfect, yet still gradually improving Union of States.   

This admiration is, in part, why we at Freedom Focused incorporate principles and practices hewn out of the American Declaration of Independence and Constitution into the drafting of similar documents aimed at building and enhancing the Self-Action Leadership (SAL)-capacity of individuals and organizations everywhere.

Simply stated, I am who and what I am today because of the lessons I've learned and the legacies I've observed from the leaders (both men and women, and both black and white) quoted below. My character, personality, and philosophy for living is an aggregate of these stirring statements. I hope readers will find the following words of wisdom as enlightening, compelling, persuasive, and inspiring as I do—as well as all of us at Freedom Focused

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1732-1826
"Always stand on principle, even if you stand alone." 


"If conscience disapproves, the loudest applauses of the world is of little value."


"Facts are stubborn things; and whatever may be our wishes, our inclinations, or the dictates of passion, they cannot alter the state of facts and evidence."


"To be good, and to do good, is all we have to do."


"Move or die is the language of our Maker in the constitution of our bodies."


"The longer I live, the more I read, the more patiently I think, and the more anxiously I inquire, the less I seem to know. ... Do justly. Love mercy. Walk humbly. This is enough." 

John Adams (1732-1826), 2nd President of the United States

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Abigail Adams
1744-1818
"Learning is not attained by chance. It must be sought after with ardor and diligence."


"I've always felt that a person's intelligence is directly reflected by the number of conflicting points of view he can entertain simultaneously on the same topic."


"We have too many high sounding words, and too few actions that correspond to them."


"If we mean to have heroes, statesmen, and philosophers, we should have learned women."


"Wisdom and penetration are the fruit of experience, not the lessons of retirement and leisure. Great necessities call out great virtues." 

Abigail Adams (1744-1818), First Lady of the United States

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Thomas Jefferson
1743-1826

"If you want something you've never had, you must do something you've never done."


"I like the dreams of the future better than the history of the past."


"The glow of one warm thought is to me worth more than money."


"I tremble for my country when I reflect that God is just; and that His justice cannot sleep forever."


Thomas Jefferson on the US $2.00 bill
"I have sworn upon the altar of God, eternal hostility against every form of tyranny over the mind of man."


"Walking is the best possible exercise. Habituate yourself to walk very far." 


"I never considered a difference of opinion in politics, in religion, in philosophy, as reason for withdrawing from a friend."


"He who knows best knows how little he knows."

Thomas Jefferson (1743-1826), 3rd President of the United States

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George Washington
1732-1799
"If the freedom of speech is taken away then dumb and silent we may be led, like sheep to the slaughter."


"To be prepared for war is one of the most effective means of preserving peace."


"Truth will ultimately prevail where there is pains to bring it to light."


"It is far better to be alone, than in bad company."


Washington Monument in D.C.

"Happiness and moral duty are inseparably connected."


"The Constitution is the guide which I never will abandon."


"It is impossible to reason without arriving at a Supreme Being."

George Washington (1732-1799, 1st President of the United States

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Benjamin Franklin
1706-1790
"Dost thou love life? Then do not squander time, for that's the stuff life is made of."


"Love your enemies, for they will tell you your faults."


"He that lies down with dogs shall rise up with fleas."


"Well done is better than well said."

Benjamin Franklin on the US $100 bill

"A right heart exceeds all."


"He that would live in peace and at ease, Must not speak all he knows nor judge all he sees."


"What's more valuable than gold?

Diamonds.  Than Diamonds?  Virtue."


"A true friend is the best possession."

Benjamin Franklin (1706-1790), Signer of the Declaration of Independence & Constitution

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"The advancement and diffusion of knowledge is the only guardian of true liberty."


"Knowledge will forever govern ignorance; and a people who mean to be their own governors must arm themselves with the power which knowledge gives."


"If men were angels, no government would be necessary."


"I believe there are more instances of the abridgment of freedoms of the people by gradual and silent encroachments by those in power than by violent and sudden usurpations."


"The essence of government is power, and power, lodged as it must be, in human hands, will ever be liable to abuse."


"The people are the only legitimate fountain of power, and it is from them that the constitutional charter, under which the several branches of government hold their power, is derived."


"It will be of little avail to the people that the laws are made by men of their own choice if the laws be so voluminous that they cannot be read, or so incoherent that they cannot be understood."

James Madison (1751-1836), 4th President of the United States

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Sam Houston
General, President, Senator, Governor
"Do right and risk the consequences."


"Govern wisely — and as little as possible."


"I am aware that in presenting myself as an advocate of the [Native Americans] and their rights, I shall stand very much alone."


"Texas is the finest portion of the globe that has ever blessed my vision!"


"We view ourselves on the eve of battle. We are nerved for contest, and must conquer or perish. It is vain to look for present aid: none is at hand. We must act now or abandon all hope! Rally to the standard, and be no longer the scoff of mercenary tongues! Be men, be free men, that your children may bless their father's name."

Sam Houston Museum w/ my favorite Texan, Frank McLane.
Huntsville, Texas; April 13, 2019

"Let me tell [The Southern States] what is coming. After the sacrifice of countless millions of treasure and hundreds of thousands of lives you may win Southern independence, but I doubt it. The North is determined to preserve this Union. They are not a fiery, impulsive people as you are, for they live in colder climates. But when they begin to move in a given direction, they move with the steady momentum and perseverance of a mighty avalanche."


"To be a good man, an affectionate husband, a kind parent, ... a true patriot, and to leave my family and the world a spotless reputation, comprise all the objects of my earthly ambition!"

Sam Houston (1786-1863), General (Army of Texas), President of the Republic of Texas, Governor of the State of Texas

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Abraham Lincoln
1809-1865
"You can fool all of the people some of the time, and some of the people all of the time, but you cannot fool all of the people all of the time."


"Sir, my concern is not whether God is on our side; my greatest concern is to be on God's side, for God is always right."


"How many legs does a dog have if you call his tail a leg? Four. Saying that a tail is a leg doesn't make it a leg." 


"The philosophy of the school room in one generation will be the philosophy of government in the next." 


"I will prepare and someday my chance will come."


"I am a firm believer in the people. If given the truth, they can be depended upon to meet any national crisis. The great point is to bring them the real facts."


Statue of Abraham Lincoln
Lincoln Memorial, Washington D.C.

"My dream is of a place and time where America will once again be seen as the last best hope of Earth." 


"With malice toward none, with charity for all, with firmness in the right, as God gives us to see the right, let us strive on to bind up the nation's wounds, to care for him who shall have borne the battle, and for his widow and his orphan  — to do all which may achieve and cherish a just and lasting peace for ourselves and for all nations."


"All the armies of Europe, Asia and Africa combined, with all the treasure of the earth (our own excepted) in their military chest; with a Bonaparte for a commander, could not by force take a drink from the Ohio, or make a track on the Blue Ridge, in a trial of a thousand years. At what point then is the approach of danger to be expected? I answer, if it ever reach us, it must spring up amongst us. It cannot come from abroad. If destruction is to be our lot, we ourselves must be its author and finisher. As a nation of freemen, we must live through all time, or die by suicide."   

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Frederick Douglass
1818-1895
"It is easier to build strong children than to repair broken men."


"If there is no struggle, there is no progress."


"I prayed for twenty years but received no answer until I prayed with my legs."


"One and God make a majority."


"The soul that is within me no man can degrade."


"I prefer to be true to myself, even at the hazard of incurring the ridicule of others, rather than to be false, and to incur my own ridicule."


"The life of the nation is secure only while the nation is honest, truthful, and virtuous."


"A gentleman will not insult me, an no man not a gentleman can insult me."

Frederick Douglass (1817-1895), Early Civil Rights Leader

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General/President U.S. Grant
1822-1885
"I have never advocated war except as a means for peace."


"Hold fast to the Bible. To the influence of this book we are indebted for all the progress made in ... civilization and to this we must look as our guide in the future."


"Leave the matter of religion to the family altar, the church, and the private school, supported by private contributions. Keep the church and state forever separate." 


President U.S. Grant on the US $50.00 bill


"Nations, like individuals, are punished for their transgressions."

"Everyone has his superstitions. One of mine has always been when I started to go anywhere, or to do anything, never to turn back until the thing intended was accomplished."


"Let us have peace."

Ulysses S. Grant (1822-1885), Full General of the U.S. Army and 18th President of the United States

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1803-1882
"Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm."


"Life is a journey, not a destination."


"Be silly. Be honest. Be kind."


"Hitch your wagon to a star."


"Don't be too timid and squeamish about your actions. All life is an experiment. The more experiments you make the better."


"To be great is to be misunderstood."


"You become what you think about all day long."


"Do not go where the path may lead. Go instead where there is no path and leave a trail."

Ralph Waldo Emerson

"One of the most beautiful compensations in life is that no person can help another without helping themselves."


"Knowledge is the antidote to fear."


"Let us be silent, that we may hear the whispers of the gods."


"He who is not everyday conquering some fear has not learned the secret of life."


"Every person I meet is in some way my superior — in that I learn of them."


"Character is higher than intellect."

Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803-1882), Scholar, Philosopher, Essayist, Poet

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Henry David Thoreau
1817-1862
"It's not what you look at that matters; it's what you see."


"Rather than love, than money, than fame; give me truth."


"If one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life which he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours."


"I went to the woods because I wished to live deliberately, to front only the essential facts of life, and see if I could not learn what it had to teach, and not, when I came to die, discover that I had not lived."


"There are a thousand hacking at the branches of evil to one who is striking at the root."


"Goodness is the only investment that never fails."


Sketch of Thoreau's Cabin near Walden Pond
"Things do not change; we change."


"What lies behind us and what lies ahead of us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us."


"I know of no more encouraging fact than the unquestionable ability of man to elevate his life by conscious endeavor."


"None are so old as those who have outlived enthusiasm."


"Life your beliefs and you can turn the world around."

Henry David Thoreau (1817-1862), Philosopher, Essayist, Friend of Emerson's

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Theodore Roosevelt
1858-1919
"Do what you can, with what you have, where you are." 


"People don't care how much you know until they know how much you care."


"I am part of everything that I have read."


"To educate a person in the mind but not in morals is to educate a menace to society."


"Never throughout history has a person who has lived a life of ease left a name worth remembering."


"The most important single ingredient in the formula of success is knowing how to get along with other people."


"With self-discipline, almost anything is possible."


"Far and away the best prize that life has to offer is the chance to work hard at work worth doing." 


"Order without liberty and liberty without order are equally destructive."


"Speak softly and carry a big stick; you will go far."


"The only person who never makes mistakes is the person who never does anything."


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat."

Theodore Roosevelt (1858-1919), 26th President of the United States.

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"The only thing we have to fear is fear itself." 


"When you reach the end of your rope, tie a knot in it and hang on."


"I'm not the smartest person in the world, but I can sure pick smart colleagues."


"It is common sense to take a method and try it. If it fails, admit it frankly and try another. But above all, try something."


Franklin with his wife, Eleanor
"If civilization is to survive, we must cultivate the science of human relationships 
— the ability of peoples, of all kinds, to live together in the same world in peace."


"Confidence ... thrives on honesty, on honor, on the sacredness of obligations, on faithful protection and on unselfish performance. Without them it cannot live."

Franklin Roosevelt (1884-1945), 32nd President of the United States.

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Eleanor Roosevelt
1884-1948
"The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams."


"You can often change your circumstances by changing your attitude." 


"No matter how plain a woman may be, if truth and honesty are written across her face, she will be beautiful."


"Life is what you make it. Always has been, and always will be."


"It is not fair to ask of others what you are unwilling to do yourself."

Eleanor with her husband, Franklin

"It is better to light a candle than to curse the darkness."


"Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss people."


"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."

Eleanor Roosevelt (1884-1948), First Lady of the United States.

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Martin Luther King, Jr.
1929-1968

"We must accept finite disappointment but never lose infinite hope."


"Faith is taking the first step even when you don't see the whole staircase."


"Forgiveness is not an occasional act. It is a permanent attitude."


"Life's most persistent and pressing question is: what am I doing for others." 



"Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that."


"Never succumb to the temptation to bitterness."


"Intelligence plus character—that is the goal of true education."

—Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. (1929-1968), Civil Rights Leader

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Ronald Reagan
1911-2004
"Freedom is never more than one generation away from extinction. We didn't pass it to our children in the bloodstream. It must be fought for, protected, and handed on for them to do the same."


"We can't help everyone, but everyone can help someone."


"Trust, but verify."


"If we ever forget that we are One Nation Under God, then we will be a nation gone under."


"There are no easy answered, but there are simple answers. We must have the courage to do what is morally right."


"The best minds are not in government. If any were, business would steal them away."


"Politics is supposed to be the second oldest profession. I have come to realize that it bears a close resemblance to the first."


"They say the world has become too complex for simple answers. They are wrong." 

Ronald Reagan (1911-2004), 40th President of the United States.


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"I am determined to be cheerful and happy in whatever situation I may find myself. For I have learned that the greater part of our misery or unhappiness is determined not by our circumstance but by our disposition."

Martha Washington (1731-1802), First Lady of the United States


"There ain't no ticks like poly-ticks. Bloodsuckers all."


"You may all go to hell, and I will go to Texas."


"Remember these words when I am dead. First, be sure you're right; then go ahead."

Davy Crockett (1786-1836), Soldier, Frontiersman, Soldier


"I am determined to sustain myself as long as possible and die like a soldier who never forgets what is due to his honor and that of his Country; Victory or death."

William Barrett Travis (1809-1836), Soldier, Army Lieutenant Colonel


"Remember, no effort that we make to attain something beautiful is ever lost."

Helen Keller (1880-1968), Political activist, disability rights advocate, author and lecturer


"There is no chance, no destiny, no fate, that can circumvent, hinder, or control, the firm resolve of a determined soul."

Ella Wheeler Wilcox (1850-1919), Poet


"Be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else."

Judy Garland (1922-1969), Hollywood Actor


"I'm a big believer that eventually everything comes back to you. You get back what you give out." 

Nancy Reagan (1911-2004), First Lady of the United States.


"Love and hope can conquer hate." 

"The best judge of whether or not a country is going to develop is how it treats its women."

Barack Obama (1961-Present), 44th President of the United States.


"Always stay true to yourself and never let what somebody says distract you from your goals."

Michelle Obama (1964-Present), First Lady of the United States


"There is no greater gift you can give or receive than to honor your calling. It's why you were born."

Oprah Winfrey (1954-Present), Billionaire Media Mogul


NOTE: This article is the 20th in a series of 22 articles on the subject of LIFE RULES.

Click HERE to access quick links to the other 21 articles.   


Dr. JJ


April 20, 2022
Palm Beach Gardens, Florida, USA

Author's Note: This is the 261st Blog Post Published by Freedom Focused LLC since November 2013. 

Click HERE for a compete listing of the other 260 FF Blog Articles.  

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Notes:

1. Mansfield, S. Never Give In: The Extraordinary Character of Winston Churchill. Nashville, TN: Cumberland House. Pages 190-193. 

Wednesday, April 13, 2022

Parenting Teenagers: A Lesson in Leadership

Dr. Chris Neck
Guest Column


By: Christopher P. Neck, Ph.D. 


Associate Professor of Management
W.P. Carey School of Business
Arizona State University


Author's Note: While I employ the pronoun "I" in this article, my wife Jen deserves a ton of credit for partnering with me in raising our two children, who are now thriving adults.



INTRODUCTION

Parenting teenagers may be one of the trickiest things you'll ever do.
Succeeding in this challenge is vital to the future of our nation and world.
I'd like to thank Dr. JJ for this unique opportunity to talk about leadership—and more specifically, SELF-LEADERSHIP—as it relates to PARENTHOOD. In so doing, I will focus in particular on the parenting of teenagers.

It's interesting to me how much effort academia invests in studying, researching, and writing about every topic imaginable except for the subjects that matter most in our lives. There is, of course, the occasional positive exception to this broad academic trend. But in the main, life's most important issues are too often neglected by those who claim to be the greatest seekers of wisdom in our world.

There is no more important role than Parenting. 
I share Dr. JJ's view that there is no more important life topic than PARENTHOOD, so I welcome this chance to address this subject, which is so important to me personally, and then make some connections to a couple of subjects I have spent my entire career studying, researching, and teaching; namely: SELF-leadership and LEADERSHIP. 

First off, it might be helpful to distinguish the difference between these two related, but distinct topics. 

There are a lot of different ways to define LEADERSHIP. My favorite definition is "a process of influence." In other words, we lead other people by influencing them to willingly act in desirable ways. SELF-leadership also involves influence, but rather than being externally directed towards others, it is internally focused on ourselves. Self-leadership is therefore the influence we exert on our own minds and hearts in an effort to conduct ourselves in appropriate, desirable, and productive ways.

Leadership begins with the SELF.
Self-Leadership has only been seriously studied in academe for about 40 years. Before the 1980s, very few academics saw leadership as being highly relevant and applicable to the self. That all began to change in the early 1980s when scholars like me began to argue for the importance of self-influence (or self-leadership) as a precursor or prerequisite to more traditional concepts of team leadership.

My colleagues' and my core argument in favor of self-leadership was implicitly postured as a self-evident answer to the following rhetorical question: "How can you expect to effectively lead other people to get results if you cannot first lead yourself to get the job done?"

Once you have accepted the self-evident nature of the answer to this question, a further question begs as follows: How can we improve our self-leadership in order to better achieve results and positively impact our capacity and influence as a team leader?

Much of my professional work over the past three decades has been aimed at answering this basic question—the goal being to identify the cognitive (thoughts) and behavioral (speech & actions) things we can do to better lead ourselves to get results, and, in-turn, better lead others in team and organizational settings.

As a researcher, scholar, and teacher in academe, I am always hopeful my work will positively influence and inspire my students. Over the years, I have had many students take interest in self-leadership and actively apply its concepts and practices in their lives—to their great benefit.

Self-Leadership was a forerunner of SAL
But never has a student of my work built so expansively or extensively upon the foundation of S-L research as Dr. JJ. You can imagine then how gratifying it has been to see the advent and proliferation of Self-Action Leadership (SAL) by Dr. JJ and Freedom Focused. On behalf of my colleagues around the nation and world, I express my gratitude for this powerful initiative, and hope Dr. JJ and his colleagues at Freedom Focused will continue pursuing their passion to further share the message of PERSONAL LEADERSHIP—with all of its essential corollary concepts—throughout the United States and World. 

A "PERFECT" moment along the way...
Lessons in Leadership to Manage Parenting the Teenage Years

"There are no perfect parents, and there are no perfect children, but there are plenty of perfect moments along the way."
            Dave Willis

I'm a big believer that there is no one path up the mountain to successful parenting. If someone tries to tell you there is a single best way to be a parent, or one, lone method for perfect parenting, then that person is probably trying to sell you a book and may not have your best interests at heart.

Raising Teenagers is Tricky.
Even the best parents make mistakes.
My guess is you would probably join me in agreeing with something Dr. JJ wrote in last week's post; namely, that "Parenting is not a hundred yard dash; it is an ultra marathon."

This statement of Dr. JJ's resonated deeply with my own instincts as a parent and leader. Bottom line: no matter how effective a parent you may be, you will still make mistakes along the way—and that is OKAY!

My personal parental philosophy involves acknowledging this reality and then preparing yourself to stay in the race—come what may—and simply keep on trying to do your best. With this in mind, I hope what I have to say about parenting teens might help you in some way to be the best parent that YOU can be within a framework of your own unique philosophy and style.

Endless are a parent's opportunities for INFLUENCE.
As previously mentioned, I define leadership as a "process of influence." As parents, we are all leaders in the sense that we are trying to influence—or LEAD—our children to become independent adults. Over the course of my three-plus decade career, I have extensively studied leadership and different leadership styles. Two of the styles I've studied include: autocratic leaders and empowering leaders.

Autocratic leaders lead by giving commanding orders and otherwise seeking to control the behavior of their subordinates. People who follow autocratic leaders are typically motivated out of a fear of the leader. 

Empowering leaders, on the other hand, lead by encouraging followers to lead themselves and thus become SELF-LEADERS. People follow empowering leaders because they value the autonomy that comes with leading themselves and because they appreciate its mutually respectful and non-threatening approach.

Autocratic Parenting
Much of my understanding of these two types of leadership comes from my own actions and experiences as a parent. When my children were younger—and I was less experienced as a parent—I often fell into the trap of resorting to autocratic leadership. This means I would command my kids to do things such as clean their rooms, eat their meals, be polite, etc. If my kids failed to follow my orders, there would be a consequence such as having to spend the afternoon in their room, or not being able to watch television. As an autocratic parent (leader) I was very stern in my approach and my kids knew that failure to follow the rules would result in a consequence they would not like. 

As my kids grew into teenagers, my life's multiplying experiences joined forces with my growing logic and wisdom about leadership. The results of this parental maturation on my part gradually influenced a significant shift in my own parenting (leadership) style. The result was the evolution of my once autocratic or commanding style into more of an EMPOWERING or self-leadership style. This evolution proved to be a vitally important element of building and maintaining positive and healthy relationships with my son and daughter.

As an empowering parent (leader), I still provided structure and discipline, which I believe teenagers not only need, but also want (although they usually won't admit it). But I also started encouraging them to make their own decisions about their day-to-day activities and goals—not only in terms of "what" they decided to pursue, but also "how" they opted to go about it.

Empowering Parenting
While I still imposed consequences for some poor decisions (such as missing curfew), I began to let my children impose their own consequences for other, less-effective decisions (such as making a bad grade on a test). My goal in taking this approach was to teach them to learn from their own disappointment or embarrassment in hopes that certain natural consequences would motivate better choices in the future.

Based on my academic research into these two different leadership (parenting) styles, I was not surprised when my efforts at empowering my children began to bear fruit. In fact, the better I got at this empowering approach, the better results I got, and more importantly, the better my relationship with my kids became.

For the sake of further explicating this point and idea, consider the following example...

If one of my kids had brought home a poor report card during their preteen years, I would have met with them, asked them if they worked hard or were slacking, and then announced that if the grade did not improve by the next report card there would be a tangible consequence such as losing video game or television time. I would then meet with them and their teacher to try and find a solution to the lagging grade.

If, on the other hand, this same scenario were to occur during their teenage years, I would have encouraged them to meet with their teacher on their own to discuss an improvement plan. Then, I would have asked them if there was anything I could do to help. I would then have encouraged them to work harder and praised their capacity to make said improvement while affirming my own belief that they would be successful. Lastly, and perhaps most importantly, I would not have imposed any external consequences because it was mutually understood that it up to the child to want to improve on their own to avoid negative long-term consequences such as failing to get into the college of their choice, etc.  

The more I reflect on this subject, the more convinced I have become that it is logical to transition from being a commanding parent when your kids are younger to being more of an empowering parent when your kids become teenagers. This evolution helps your kids make the transition from being dependent children to independent adults.

In closing, I share an original poem of mine aimed at helping you on your challenging, but rewarding parenting journey. Perhaps it will be inspiring to your children as well. I wish you the very best as you parent your kids... and especially during the treacherous teenage years. May you give it your ALL in helping your kids LEAD THE BAND in all aspects of their lives.


LEADING THE BAND

She was going to be the President
Of the U.S. of A.
He was going to become an actor
In a Broadway play.

As youngsters — these were their dreams;
The visions they aspired to.
They truly thought these aspirations,
Eventually, would one day come true.

But she did not become President.
The reason is the ultimate sin.
She never ran for office.
She feared she would not win.

He didn't make it to New York City.
In fact, never set foot on the stage.
He thought he'd forget his lines.
In other words — he was afraid.

The lesson in these stories
Is that you must get up and try.
If you let your fears control you,
Your dreams will quickly die.

Because if you want to hit a home run,
You have to go up to the plate.
If you want to meet that special person,
You have to ask them for a date.

The biggest crime in life
Is to forget what you have dreamt.
It's not the act of losing
But to have never made the attempt.

So as you battle with your fears in life,
Remember this brief command:
"If you're not afraid to lead the music,
 You may one day lead the band."


This poem is reprinted from Dr. Neck's personal poetry anthology, entitled: MEDICINE FOR THE MIND: Healing Words to Help You Soar (4th Edition, McGraw-Hill).  Click HERE to buy this Book of inspired self-leadership poetry.

Dr. Chris Neck

April 13, 2022
Paradise Valley, Arizona, USA


Dr. JJ:  "It's hard to imagine my
life and career without the mentorship,
friendship, and influence of Chris Neck
.

Chris Neck: A Personal Tribute

By:  JJ


I first came into contact with Dr. Chris Neck's scholarly work on self-leadership (S-L) back in 2001 as a freshman in college. At the time I was a visiting student at Brigham Young University (BYU) enrolled in a general elective course on LEADERSHIP. My teacher—whose name was Karl Smart—lived up to his name by intelligently choosing Dr. Neck's seminal textbook on S-L as a primary text in that leadership class; and I'm so glad he did!

From that initial introduction until now, I have always been a BIG FAN of Chris Neck. Moreover, my introduction to Chris's work on self-leadership was a pivotal moment in my own academic and professional journey. Indeed, my introduction to S-L proved both catalytic and foundational to my work in developing SAL and otherwise dedicating my career to personal leadership oriented training, research, and writing.

Sir Isaac Newton once said: "If I have seen farther, it is by standing on the shoulders of GIANTS."  

Chris Neck is one of the GIANTS upon whose shoulders I stand as the author and organizer of SAL. 

Ten years later, in 2011, I personally reached out to Chris for the first time. We have been good friends and close colleagues ever since. Dr. Neck is a co-author of all FIVE (5) of the academic papers I have published to date. 

Over the past decade, Chris Neck has been my closest non-familial friend, confidant, mentor, supporter, and cheerleader. I've never met anyone quite like him, and I've lived in this world long enough to realize that friendships like his don't come around very often in life, so when they do, they are worth cherishing, protecting, and perpetuating.

From the numerous academic papers and projects we have worked on together to our shared love of college football, distance running, and the American South, I will forever cherish and guard my friendship with this capable and prolific scholar who is, more importantly, a thoughtful, kind, and generous human being. Thank you, Chris, for being my mentor and friend; and thank you for believing in me like nobody else... and long before everybody else. 

Geaux Tigers!

          Go Gators!!

                     And GO any other team who ever lines up against Alabama or Georgia!!!

Chris Neck's expansive and impressive resume can be found below. I encourage you to take a few minutes and review his remarkable and inspiring CV. Doing so will provide you with additional insight into the wisdom, accomplishments, and expertise of the man whose words you were privileged to read today.  

Dr. Chris Neck
Bio of Christopher P. Neck, Ph.D. 


Dr. Chris Neck is currently an Associate Professor of Management at Arizona State University, where he has held the title "University Master Teacher."

From 1994 to 2009, Dr. Neck was part of the Pamplin College of Business faculty at the Virginia Polytechnic Institute and State University (Virginia Tech). He received his Ph.D. in Management from Arizona State University (ASU) in Tempe and his MBA from Louisiana State University (LSU) in Baton Rouge—where he was born and raised.  

Geaux Tigers!  

Dr. Neck has taught over 60,000 students during his career in higher education. He currently teaches a mega section of Management Principles to approximately 900 students at Arizona State. Neck was the recipient of the 2020 John W. Teets Outstanding Undergraduate Teaching Award (voted by W.P. Carey Students). He also received the Order of Omega Outstanding Teaching Award for 2012. This award is presented to one professor at Arizona State by the Alpha Lamda Leadership Fraternity.

At Virginia Tech, Dr. Neck taught courses with up to 2,500 students at a time. His acumen and popularity at the front of the classroom netted him many awards, most notably of which was the Students' Choice Teacher of the Year Award (as voted by students for the best teacher within the entire university) which Neck won an extraordinary TEN (10) times during the following years: 1996, '98, 2000, '02, '04, '05, '06, '07, '08, and '09. At Virginia Tech, he was also the recipient of the 2002 Wine Award for Teaching Excellence.  

In 2020, Neck was voted as a semi-finalist for the Cherry Award for Great Teaching. Neck finished in the top six out of 140 nominations for this prestigious international award sponsored by Baylor University. Neck was also the recipient of the 2007 Business Week Favorite Professor Award. He is featured on businessweek.com as one of the approximately 20 professors selected from across the world to receive this award.

Dr. Neck has facilitated training seminars for a number of corporations and other organizations, including: 
  • GE/Toshiba
  • Busch Gardens
  • Clark Construction
  • U.S. Army
  • Crestar
  • American Family Insurance
  • Sales and Marketing Executives International
  • American Airlines
  • American Electric Power
  • W.L. Gore & Associates
  • Dillard's Department Stores
  • Prudential Life Insurance. 

Chris also serves as the Deputy Editor of The Journal of Leadership and Management. Due to his expertise in management, Neck has been cited in numerous national publications including:
  • Washington Post
  • Wall Street Journal
  • Los Angeles Times
  • Houston Chronicle
  • Chicago Tribute

Dr. Neck's research specialties include employee/executive fitness, self-leadership, leadership, group decision-making processes, and self-managing teams. He has over 150 publications in the form of books, book chapters, and articles in various journals. Some of the scholarly outlets that have featured Chris's work include:
  • Organizational Behavior and Human Decision Processes
  • Journal of Organizational Behavior
  • The Academy of Management Executive
  • Journal of Applied Behavioral Science
  • Journal of Managerial Psychology,
  • Executive Excellence
  • Human Relations
  • Human Resource Development Quarterly
  • Journal of Leadership Studies
  • Educational Leadership
  • The Commercial Law Journal
  • Journal of Leadership and Management

Neck is author and/or coauthor of twenty-two books, including:  (click on link to buy book)
  • Get a Kick Out of Life: Expect the Best of Your Body, Mind, and Soul at Any Age (Clovercroft, 2017).
  • Entrepreneurship (2017, SAGE; 2020, SAGE [2nd Edition]). Organizational Behavior (2017, SAGE; 2019, SAGE [2nd Edition]).  

Chris is a husband and proud father of a son and daughter. Also an avid runner, he has completed twelve marathons, including the New York, San Diego, and elite Boston. To date, Chris's longest continuous run is 48 miles. 

For more information about Dr. Neck's work and consulting services, or to contact him personally, please visit his personal or professional website.  





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