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Wednesday, August 9, 2023

Psalms of SAL


Chapter 13


Psalms of SAL


Dr. JJ as a wee lad
Mesa, Arizona, Circa 1988 (age 8)

Rising to the fullness of my potential has
always been my life's greatest desire.  
In conjunction with ROMANCE, Self-Action Leadership (SAL) is my favorite poetic topic to explore as both a reader and writer. 

My SAL Journey began when I was very young—just eight (8) years old (see picture to the right). As a human being, I have many weaknesses & shortcomings that make the journey difficult and onerous at times. Despite these challenges and obstacles, I have always had a deep and penetrating desire to grow, improve, overcome, and ultimately become the best and most highly developed person I can possibly become.

Poetry has played an important role in this journey.

As a teenager and young man, I derived incredible inspiration and motivation from poems in the self-help and personal leadership genre. For example, Henry Wadsworth Longfellow's The Builders and A Psalm of Life are two of my favorites. Similar works by other poets, like Ella Wheeler Wilcox, Rudyard Kipling, George Washington Doane, and others whose work appear in Roy J. Cook's concise anthology, One Hundred and One Poems, lit a raging fire underneath me that has been fueling my own personal life, professional career, and poetic pen ever since. 

Click HERE for a complete listing of SAL-oriented poems that have inspired me over the years.

It was therefore natural that I would eventually start plying my own pen in personal leadership-oriented topics and themes. My Muse has been very generous in providing me with inspiration in this regard. I've said it before and I'll say it again: I usually don't have to work very hard to create my best stuff because my finest work as a poet typically just comes to me, compliments of my Muse. In admitting this, I don't mean to imply that producing my best work doesn't require a measure of creativity and effort on my part—it does—but often that key first line or two—and vital other aspects of a given poem—are simply placed in my mind by an external, metaphysical Source.

My Muse is real, and always elevates my 
work above my own finite capacity.
Artists and writers have different ideas about the ontological and etiological nature of this Source. I'm a simple man and believe it comes from God. And I am most appreciative to my almighty Creator for blessing me so bounteously with inspiration as a poet, writer, thinker, and leader.  

All major religions and philosophies promote the importance of self-mastery and leadership. Christ taught to check one's own eye for a beam before judging another for his or her moat. Muhammad explained that, "the most excellent [struggle] is that for the conquest of self." The Buddha expounded, "As an irrigator guides water to his fields, as an archer aims an arrow, as a carpenter carves wood, the wise shape their lives." In the Tao Te Ching, Lao Tzu wrote of "the power ... [and] strength of character." (1)

The Confucian moral ethic forms a sound
basis for the character education of our youth.
The philosophy of Confucianism has influenced wide swaths of East Asia. In his fascinating book, Confucius Lives Next Door, T.R. Reid reported the following about his experiences in Japan:

"Just about anywhere you go in China, Japan, Korea, Singapore, Malaysia, Indonesia, Taiwan, Tailand, etc., you find moral instruction right before your eyes—often in letters (or characters) ten feet tall. ... These countries are constantly preaching values, morality, and good citizenship to their citizens in the form of slogans, posters, billboards, advertisements, and TV commercials."  (2)

Reid further explained the pervasive presence of this Confucian-moral ethic in his daughter's public elementary school.

"The strongest lesson our kids took away from [their] Japanese school was something we hadn't counted on. They were taught to be little Confucians. That public school, like all Asian public schools, devoted endless time, energy, and ingenuity to the teaching of moral lessons: community virtues, proper social conduct, appropriate behavior as a member of a group. Confucius and his followers, after all, had insisted that virtue can be taught—indeed, must be taught if the society as a whole is to be a virtuous and civil community. Moral education was too important to be left to parents, churches, or Boy Scout troops [alone]. It was a job for the whole society to engage in. And this is what schools do, to this day, in East Asian societies. They teach reading, writing, arithmetic, science, and so forth, but at the same time they are busily turning out Confucian citizens, ... [learning] Confucian lessons considered just as essential: working hard, following rules, respecting authority, taking responsibility, and getting along with the group. ... There is no conception in East Asia that music and math belong in schools but moral values do not. Learning to do right is considered just as important as learning to add right."  (3)

Dr. James G.S. Clawson, an Emeritus Professor at the University of Virginia's prestigious Darden School of Business has "come to believe that one of the biggest leadership issues is the inability of people—even and especially managers and executives—to lead themselves."  (4)  Whether we are discussing executives and managers, front-line employees, new-hires, college students, teenagers, or children, the universal importance and need—nay, the necessity—of character education and moral instruction is self-evident and never diminishes. Ironically, this self-evident reality is largely ignored by public and other schools throughout the United States and Western World. That is where Freedom Focused comes into play. It has been our single-minded focus for the past 20 years to model, teach, and promote character education and moral instruction in the West. So far, the West is not very interested in what we are offering. But, I am an eternal optimist; moreover, all things must come to pass in their time.  

Thoreau once optimistically wrote:

"I know of no more encouraging fact than man's unquestionable ability to elevate his life by conscious endeavor. It is something to be able to paint a particular picture, or to carve a statue, and so to make a few objects beautiful; but it is far more glorious to carve and paint the very atmosphere and medium through which we look, which morally we can do. To affect the quality of the day, that is the highest of arts."

One of the many exciting things about SAL is that "what we achieve inwardly, changes our outer reality." (5)  In other words, we have the power to improve our external circumstances by virtue of our inward achievements of character, effort, and focus—regardless of the challenges we may face externally. This fact does not negate or diminish the presence, reality, and challenge of forces beyond our control; but it does spawn enormous hope for positive and productive personal change, both internally and externally over time.  

Speaking of HOPE, I hope you might find some inspiration and motivation from the following SAL poems I have written over the years. After all, Hope Springs Eternal!  


Dr. JJ, before he was a doctor, leads the
pack 600 meters into an 800 meter race
at Weber State University in the spring
of 2003. Running and racing has been an
important part of my life and identity.
The Power of the Present   

Our grand business is not to see
what lies dimly at a distance,
but to do what lies clearly at hand
.

 ~ Thomas Carlyle

Beyond the haze of what we face,
There lies the track on which we'll race;
But what we often soon forget:
It's also 'neath our current pace.

We always look beyond the mists,
Squint through the fog toward future lists,
And rarely opt to seize the day:
In the best shape of my
life while running track
in college.  Spring 2003.
The here, the now—so often missed!

For what we fail to contemplate,
The present's where we carve our fate,
And future's bliss' only secured,
By mastering what's now on our plate.

But if we grasp on to what's ours,
That's how we'll break our prison bars,
And rise in ways we'd never thought,
To mighty deeds and distant stars!

O man, no longer cast your view,
On things that aren't in front of you,
Do your best now, and trust in faith
That all things in their time shall find you.  

Note: this poem was written while sitting alone in the bleachers overlooking the Pope High School track in Marietta, Georgia, on a warm Sunday afternoon following church.


Progress  

Alas, my inmost heart breaks free,
From all that has been stopping me,
And I exult in all that will
Break forth into my life yet still.

There is still so much more to learn,
Things to achieve and things to earn,
Folks to meet—my heart doth burn—
As for it all I greatly yearn!

This anxious state amidst it all,
Oft seems to be my life's true call,
Yet spite the pain and petty pelf,
I'll still claim vict'ry over self.

And meantime I'll enjoy the ride,
And bask in the abundance here.
My life will be serene inside,
And outside I'll emanate cheer!


The Slaying of the Beast  

What holds me back from casting off?
"Why nothing," I said with a laugh.
But won't they sneer and scorn and scoff?
"Of course!" said I, and that's but half
Of all the calumny they'll heap,
Cov'ring me knee, waist, and chest deep.
"When covered all, what then of you?"
The skeptic asked, his motive true.
"Will not they smother all the good,
And spoil God's gift of daily food?
Will not your efforts yet prove vain,
Leaving you with naught but pain?
And 'pon your soul, will not remain
The deepest, darkest, blackest stain?"

"Nay, not so, dear friend, you're blind,
And I'm bereaved you've yet to find
The one great truth that lights the mind,
And with this truth I'll now remind
You of this elementary right:
That God's endowed me with a might
That's free to those willing to fight,
And with the weaponry so real,
I've got an everlasting sight
That cuts deep through this earthen plight,
And lifts me up beyond the night
They'd gladly cast me ever toward—
A death incurred by my own sword."

The beauty of seeing clearly,
And recognize the foe 'tis me—
Not you, but me! Yes, yes, it's me!
To think that they're the enemy
Is fiercely falsified foolishness.

And knowing now the facts, the sum,
I've nothing outside me to fear,
The real demon's much more near,
Insidiously inside my own ear,
Yes! Each one plots their own dam, fall,
But, for those who come to see,
The devil's alive in you and me,
And makes the choice: a firm resolve,
To kill the beast that doth evolve
Inside ourselves, then vict'ry's won
In utter solitude... alone!
No shouts or cheers,
No joyful tears,
No thundering applause,
No commendation and no praise,
No rave reviews, 
No front-page craze
Accompanies the slaying of
The Beast
   Inside
      Myself.

But once the demon has been slain,
The onward march of time makes plain,
The end of it 'tis the start of me,
My pending public victory,  (6)
And my eternal destiny.  



Change Yourself  

Try not, my friend, to change what's life,
For life cannot be changed,
And trying only brings you strife,
And leaves your mind deranged.

Instead, work hard to change YOURSELF,
And as you do, you'll find,
Your life will gain all kinds of wealth,
Including peace of mind.  



My first book on SAL, published in 2005,
carried this phrase I am so passionate about.
I Am Sovereign  

I Am Sovereign.

Today I affirm that
I am the captain of my own life.

As such,
I am fully responsible for:
My attitude,
   My decisions,
      My life's results, and hence—
My life's long-term direction.

No one can take this power away from me,
Though I can give it away to 
Someone, or something else.

This I will never do,
For there is but one me in all history,
And I will not waste
My one shot at life!

In the past I have
Blamed,
   Named,
      Gamed, and
         Shamed.

No more!

For now I know that I cannot control
   Anyone but
      Myself.
Yet, in that control
   I create my world,
      Design my destiny, and
         Conquer the enemy within.

I Am Sovereign.



I Am Sovereign  (Classroom Version)  

I Am Sovereign.  

As the Captain of my life,
I understand that I am responsible for
My thoughts,
   My words,
      My decisions,
         My grade, and ultimately,
My future.

Knowing this gives me power—
Personal Power
To make good choices,
   Do the right thing, (7) and
      Be successful at school and beyond.

No one can take this power away from me,
Though if I choose, I can give it away
To someone, or
   Something else. 

This I will never do.
For their is but one Me in all history,
And I will not waste
   My one shot at life.

Just for today,
I will respect myself by respecting:
My school,
   My teachers,
      My classmates, and
By doing my best to master
What I am supposed to learn.

I know that I cannot control
Anyone or anything
   But myself.

Yet, in that control,
I create my world,
   Design my destiny, and
      Conquer the enemy within.

Today, I choose to be successful
In school
   And in
      Life, because...

I Am Sovereign!


Thresa Brooks
Middle School English Teacher
Mableton, Georgia, USA
The above poem was inspired by another, similar poem, entitled I Am Special, written by Thresa Brooks, an English language arts teacher at Tapp Middle School in Mableton, Georgia. Mrs. Brooks would teach her poem to her students who, in-turn, would memorize and then recite it every day before class would begin. A consciously-crafted series of positive affirmations, her poem would set the tone for a positive and productive learning environment for her students each day. I have not, before or since, observed a teacher of any age-group (much less middle schoolers) who commanded more respect from her students than Ms. Brooks. It was remarkable to observe the power of poetry effectively employed in the daily lives of her fortunate students.


I Am Special  

By: Thresa Brooks

I am somebody,
I am very special,
I am here today because
I want to learn something that I did not know.
I promise I will not cause problems for my teachers, 
classmates, school, friends, or myself.
I will let nothing stop me from achieving my goals.
I will not let you stop me from achieving my goals.
I will help you to achieve your goals.
I will achieve the goals that I have set for myself.
With you or apart from you my friend.


Freedom Focused
I am Freedom Focused
Focused, that is, on Freedom.

Freedom from tyrants,
And evil and terror,

Freedom from bias, 
Injustice and error,

But most of all...

Freedom from myself,
And the devil within

A fiend far more fearsome
Than the author of sin.

Freedom in all its glorious majesty
And liberating bliss
Will be mine forever
If I'll remember this:
Universal Laws exist and govern
Outside of all human opinion or arbitration,
And Serendipity
Has my back and yours
As long as we do our part.

Therefore:
I truly
   Am
      Sovereign
And by extension

FREE
To be
The kind of Man
I want to be
In this life,
And throughout 
Eternity.

I am, therefore, Freedom Focused
Focused, that is, on 
Freedom
Now,
   Tomorrow,
       &
Forever.   


 
 —Dr. JJ
August 9, 2023
Palm Beach Gardens, Florida, USA


Author's Note: This is the 339th Blog Post Published by Freedom Focused LLC since November 2013 and the 159th consecutive weekly blog published since August 31, 2020.   

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Notes:

1.  Dreher, D. 1997. The Tao of Personal Leadership. New York, NY: HarperBusiness. Pages 15, 27.

2.  Reid, T.R. 1999. Confucius Lives Next Door: What Living in the East Teaches us About Living in the West. New York, NY: Vintage Books. Page 129.

3.  Ibid.  Pages 152 and 143.  

4.  Clawson, J.G.S. 2008. "Leadership as Managing Energy." International Journal of Organizational Analysis. Volume 16, Number 3, page 174.  

5.  Quote attributed to both Plutarch (AD 46-199) and Otto Rank (1884-1939).

6.  Public Victory refers to a term Dr. Stephen R. Covey used to describe the external accolades, rewards, et cetera, that follow Private SAL victories inside our minds and hearts as self-action leaders.  

7.  This phraseology borrows from Kehl Arnson's mantra: "Make good choices, do the right thing, and have a great day at Campbell!" Arnson was Principal at Campbell High School in Marietta, Georgia in the early 2000s.  

Wednesday, July 28, 2021

Balancing Proactivity with Patience

At Freedom Focused, we often teach the truism that TRUTH is PARADOXICAL. We do so because understanding the paradoxical nature of truth is absolutely indispensable to earning the highest levels of Existential Growth.

What exactly does it mean when I say: "Truth is Pardoxical?"

Good Question!

It means that any truth usually carries with it a corollary truth that may initially appear or seem to contradict the very principle with which it harmonizes. That's a mouthful... so it's usually easier if I illustrate the point with some specific examples and simple aphorisms.   

Example #1: In order to build your muscles up stronger, you must first tear down their fibers so that, through natural repair processes, they can then be enhanced beyond their original state. 

Example #2: If you seek authentic personal success or greatness, you must forget about pursuing both and dedicate yourself to a cause greater than yourself or a person/s other than yourself. Then, in the words of Viktor Frankl, "success will follow you precisely because you had forgotten to think about it." 

"Don't aim at success. The more you aim at it and make it a target, the more you are going to miss it. For success, like happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensue, and it only does so as the unintended side effect of one's personal dedication to a cause greater than oneself or as the by-product of one's surrender to a person other than oneself. Happiness must happen, and the same holds for success: you have to let it happen by not caring about it. I want you to listen to what your conscience commands you to do and go on to carry it out to the best of your knowledge. Then you will live to see that in the long-run—in the long-run, I say!—success will follow you precisely because you had forgotten to think about it."*

 Viktor Frankl   

Example #3:  The best romantic relationships tend to flower when you are not intentionally pursuing romance. In the words of the poet, Ella Wheeler Wilcox: All love that has not friendship for its base is like a mansion built upon the sand.

"All love that has not friendship for its base, is like a mansion built upon the sand."

 Ella Wheeler Wilcox

Click HERE to read Wilcox's full POEM: Upon the Sand  

Aphorism #1: Less is more.

Aphorism #2: "Try hard not to try so hard!"**

Trying too hard to get, do, or be something usually undercuts your efforts to achieve. It's like a golfer who swings her club too hard in an effort to hit the ball as far as she possibly can, and in the process ends up either shanking the ball off the fairway, or worse—missing the ball and hitting the ground. Or, like an automobile driver who overcorrects a steering error and ends up rolling his vehicle instead of getting back on track between the lines.  

Aphorism #3:  "Take no thought for the morrow, for the morrow shall take thought for the things of itself; sufficient is the day unto the evil thereof."  Jesus

Obviously we need to learn from the past and plan/prepare for the future. But if we fail to fully and effectively live in the present, we will fail to maximize our present power, no matter how effective our plans may be.

Click HERE to learn more about the Power of Living in the Present.    

The  P/PC  Balance

Dr. Stephen Covey famously taught a principle he called the "P/PC Balance." In this example, "P" stands for "Production" and "PC" stands for "Production Capability."

If a person, team, or piece of equipment spends too much time producing and not enough time caring for and properly maintaining one's self, group, or tools, the result will inevitably be damage and burnout, which, in-turn, undercuts—or even devastates—production.

If an individual, team, or tool is to maximize production in the long run, one must focus on production capacity all along the way.

That's just the way things are.

That's why you get your car's oil changed. It's also why you visit the doctor, dentist, and/or other healthcare professionals on a regular basis—whether you are presently feeling any pain, or not. It's also why we take time off on the weekends, spend quality time with those we love, celebrate birthdays and holidays, and go on vacations. It's why we take walks, exercise, engage in recreation, swallow our vitamins and otherwise tend to our nutrition. It's also why we read, study, ponder, and pray and/or meditate.

It's not how fast you start the race.
It's how well you pace the race!
A common mistake human beings often make is exercising impatience with the P/PC balance principle. When we get impatient, we make decisions aimed at boosting production results in the short-run. While initially beneficial—or at least seemingly so—such decisions inevitably come at the expense of our long-term production capability. It's like a distance runner who starts a race too fast—a mistake I often made as a young and inexperienced runner. It feels good to start off faster than everybody else and find yourself in the lead after the first lap of a mile race. The problem is that you still have three (3) laps to go! I've learned from first-hand experience that the thrill of being in first place after the first lap does not compensate for the embarrassment of being passed up by a crowd of runners who chose to wisely pace themselves for the full-distance of the race. Such impulsive moves only betray your own impatience and immaturity as a competitor. 

Life is full of opportunities for service, contribution, and achievementthe successful pursuit of which demands that we properly balance proactivity with patience. If we fail to properly achieve this balance, we will fail to reach our full potential in whatever we set out to do.

Understanding the importance of this balance—and effectively implementing it into my personal and professional pursuits—has been paramount to my greatest successes in the past, and is similarly crucial to whatever I aim to accomplish in the future. 

One of biggest reasons I failed so often in my romantic pursuits (before I met Lina) was because I was often too impatient. I wanted to see results in my dating life immediately. But let's face it, that's not how love usually works. It took a long time to win Lina's heart. Four months passed in between our first date and our first kiss. And an entire year passed in between deciding to date exclusively and becoming engaged. It was then another six months before we were married. If I had not been willing to exercise great amounts of patience in my pursuit of Lina, she never would have felt comfortable dating me, and I never would have won her heart. This same scenario has played out in other areas of my life and career as well. After 18 years of diligent toil, focused effort, and steady growth and improvement, Freedom Focused is still not my full-time job. But with patience, I get a little bit closer with each and every blog article I publish.  

I confess that PATIENCE been a difficult lesson for me to learn, and I am not alone in my experience of this challenge. For me, the reason for its difficulty lies, in part, in the fact that I am naturally more proactive than I am patient. Proactivity is a wonderful trait; but like everything else, can get you into trouble if it is not balanced. I have always been an inherently hard working, proactive person. That is a good thing. But unbridled and bereft of patience, it tends to get me into trouble that is preventable.

To illustrate, athletes who train too hard tend to get injured. People who try too hard in relationships tend to push others away. Workaholics are usually not fun to be around, and may sacrifice their health, happiness, and personal relationships on the altar of career achievements. Entrepreneurs who are unwilling to adjust to market realities typically go out of business, and so on.  

As I have built Freedom Focused over the past 18 years, I have often had to learn to bridle my burning passion for action and temper it with patience. There have even been times when I've had to force myself to "sit still and wait" at various occasions and junctions. One of the hardest things for me to do is to sit still and do nothing; but there are times when the best possible course of action is inaction—strange as that may sound.  

It's not easy for me to sit still and not do anything. Action and proactivity are such fundamental elements of my nature and personality that it is usually easier to just jump in and take action. Nevertheless, there are times when the best thing you can possibly do in a situation is... absolutely nothing! There are times when we must work, and there are times when we must wait. If we fail to heed both commands in a wise, strategic, and disciplined manner, we will not succeed in the long run.

Thus it is that Longfellow exhorts us to "Learn to Labor and to Wait."*** And thus it is that the Good Book reminds us: "To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose..." (Ecclesiastes 3:1).

Farmers understand that even their hardest labors and best efforts are at the mercy of the irrevocable laws of nature. No matter how ambitious one might sow, one must rely on the merits and mercies of nature to reap a bountiful harvest. And nature can sometimes be a punishing master. If you don't believe me, just ask any farmer who has lost a crop to the elements (e.g. hail, flooding, fire, etc.). Moreover, even with the best of luck with the weather, a farmer must WAIT for appointed passages of time before one can reap a mature harvest. Premature harvesting aimed at "seeing how the roots are doing" will undercut one's hard work every time. 

As self-action leaders, we must learn how to work hard and be diligent. But we must simultaneously develop our capacity to patiently wait upon natural forces over which we have no control. If we fail to do so, we will find that those same natural forces will, in time, have their own way with us, the results of which will be, to say the very least, undesirable.   

"Learn to Labor and to Wait."

 Henry Wadsworth Longfellow        


-Dr. JJ

July 28, 2021
Palm Beach Gardens, Florida, USA

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Notes:

* From Man's Search for Meaning, by Viktor Frankl

** This is a quote from the movie, The Disorderly Orderly, starring Jerry Lewis. The speaker of the quote is a nurse who is continually frustrated by the main character's (Lewis) annoying penchant of messing things up by trying too hard.  

*** From Longfellow's poem, A Psalm of Life

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